On 3rd February, in order to express my gratitude towards my domestic helper at home, I decided to make for her Nasi Briyani – a classic Indonesian dish. In the process, I understood her difficulty in cooking Chinese dishes as I struggled a lot. This was because I was not used to some ingredients, especially spices such as safron. To add on, I did not know much about the kinds of Indian food there are. Therefore, it made me think of how she had to firstly learn the various types of dishes and then try cooking them. Meanwhile, I was already that close to giving up when trying to make that one dish.
Ultimately, after several trial and errors, I managed to make something that at least somehow resembles Nasi Briyani. Despite how flawed I felt it was, she was extremely thankful and grateful just from this small act of mine.
This experience made me think about how hard it is for domestic helpers who just settled in to Singapore. A typical household would usually want to employ a helper who knows how to cook. However, this helpers came from a completely different place and culture. Similar to how we might not be used to their food, they are not used to ours as well. However, they still have to slowly learn the ropes of how to cook Chinese food and despite their hard work and effort sometimes, some employers harshly dismiss their food as “not nice”.
I have been growing up with a domestic helper ever since I was young, hence, one can basically say that they have been a very prominent part of my life – fetching me from kindergarten, preparing my meals filled with nutrients and even changing my diapers. Thankfully, my parents have always taught me to respect my helpers and say “Thank you” to them. However, sadly, I know that that is not the case for many other households. There have been various articles whereby helpers are verbally abused and treated as a tool instead of human. into come to Singapore, they have to leave their family and their accustomed way of life behind. Furthermore, they have to learn and adapt to our culture such as making Chinese dishes. After going through such difficulties and hardships, it pains me to know that several of them are being mistreated and in some cases, not even getting the salary you rightfully deserve.








